Question
"Adultery" I knew a married woman a while back and we became intimately involved. She is now my wife.. She was married to someone else and we were friends. There were lots of factors that influenced this, but mostly it was just our bad judgement and sin.
Even more sadly perhaps, she ended up becoming pregnant. There was no possibility this child belonged to her then husband. What does God say about this?
Answer
I first want to thank you for feeling that you could be honest with me. I do not take that lightly and respect you for that.
Regarding your question I will try to share with you what I have found. First, I want you to realize that adultery (Sex between those who are married to someone else) and fornication, (Sex between unmarried couples) IS NOT the 'unpardonable sin'. Only the rejection of Jesus Christ.
That being said, it does not eliminate the consequences of the act.
For example: Remember David and Bathsheba?
Not only did David commit adultery but his premeditatedly committed 1st degree murder. Check out. II Samuel Chp 11.
| vs. 1 | In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king's men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem. |
| vs. 2 | One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, |
| vs. 3 | and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, "Isn't this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite?" |
| vs. 4 | Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (She had purified herself from her uncleanness.) Then she went back home. |
| vs. 5 | The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, "I am pregnant." |
| vs. 6 | So David sent this word to Joab: "Send me Uriah the Hittite." And Joab sent him to David. |
| vs. 7 | When Uriah came to him, David asked him how Joab was, how the soldiers were and how the war was going. |
| vs. 8 | Then David said to Uriah, "Go down to your house and wash your feet." So Uriah left the palace, and a gift from the king was sent after him. |
| vs. 9 | But Uriah slept at the entrance to the palace with all his master's servants and did not go down to his house. |
| vs. 10 | When David was told, "Uriah did not go home," he asked him, "Haven't you just come from a distance? Why didn't you go home?" |
| vs. 11 | Uriah said to David, "The ark and Israel and Judah are staying in tents, and my master Joab and my lord's men are camped in the open fields. How could I go to my house to eat and drink and lie with my wife? As surely as you live, I will not do such a thing!" |
| vs. 12 | Then David said to him, "Stay here one more day, and tomorrow I will send you back." So Uriah remained in Jerusalem that day and the next. |
| vs. 13 | At David's invitation, he ate and drank with him, and David made him drunk. But in the evening Uriah went out to sleep on his mat among his master's servants; he did not go home. |
| vs. 14 | In the morning David wrote a letter to Joab and sent it with Uriah. |
| vs. 15 | In it he wrote, "Put Uriah in the front line where the fighting is fiercest. Then withdraw from him so he will be struck down and die." |
| vs. 16 | So while Joab had the city under siege, he put Uriah at a place where he knew the strongest defenders were. |
| vs. 17 | When the men of the city came out and fought against Joab, some of the men in David's army fell; moreover, Uriah the Hittite died. (NIV) |
Remember King Solomon.
Look at II Samuel 12:24
" Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and lay with her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. The LORD loved him;" (NIV)
God said that Solomon was the greatest of all kings. Yet he was born out of a marriage that was predicated by murder and adultery.
But there were consequences for their sin also. Look at II Samuel 11:15-19 The son that was born out of 'Adultery' died.
God loves you and does not hold that sin against you or you partner, but you do need to confess it, and ask for forgiveness. NOT TO BE SAVED but because you are saved.
If you have received the payment that Jesus made for you, then you are now His child. (If you don't KNOW you are going to Heaven, go to the following site.) www.caniknow.com/prayer.htm If you have prayed that prayer on our site. or have in the past, then you are a child of God. |
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